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We live in a result-orieniented world. We naturally want to get from point A to point B and much of our every day life reflects that. Though there is nothing wrong in taking action we often neglect the part of ourselves that want to play. Creativity has taken quite the hit lately, especially with the internet at everyone’s fingertips and Youtube and Instagram stars becoming the norm. All too often our creativity is seen as a means to money, a means to success and though this is certainly possible and there is absolutely nothing wrong with making money as a result of creativity, I urge you to take some time to be creative with no end goal. Just be creative for creativity's sake and then if something comes of it great but don’t be so attached to the end result. I saw this with my hairdresser. He’s a very successful guy. He has some of the biggest names in LA come through his doors and could just stop there but one day while getting my haircut he told me about a magazine he created. When I asked him what inspired him to do so, he responded “you often forget why you got into this profession in the first place so every so often I like to remind myself and just make something for fun” I just thought that was the coolest thing. And what we don’t realize is that by being creative just for fun we are then opening our creative channels for our actual work as well. What you’re being creative at for fun doesn’t have to even be some thing you’re necessarily good at. Is there something you always wanted to learn or were just interested about? Check it out. Take a dance class, write a screenplay, paint a picture. It can be big, small or somewhere in between but savor the wonder of creativity. Lose yourself in it. Rejoice in it. And if the big bucks come from some random thing, great but don’t let that be your only criteria.
There's so much to be grateful for in the new year but sometimes I think it's important to approach things in a way that cultivates gratitude through our actions. We're coming out of the holiday season where everyone was a little nicer, activities and parties were plentiful (as were the cookies and champagne) and it's easy to feel like January is just one huge balloon deflating. We usually spend our January's on fad diets, trying to keep resolutions and getting back into the grind. Last year I decided this was kind of unfair to January and that I was going to make an effort to make January a lot more fun (though a bit healthier than December) so I can end the month a bit more grateful. Here are a list of activities and ideas on my docket for this January. See if there are some fun ones for you to implement or come up with some of your own. I'd love to hear about them! Tweet me @thefancyhippie to tell me about them, Cheers to you January!
Project January List:
- Go Carting
- Ballroom dance class
- Laguna beach
- Harry Potter movie binge
- A healthy dinner party
- Coloring more
- Boxing class
- a real hike
- Mini golf
- Dog beach
- Golden Globes party
- DIY party
- Vision board making
- Dinner or coffee with new friends or those you haven't seen in a while (and want to:))
We all want to be more present in our lives. Technology and the hustle and bustle of every day life has a way of keeping us living in the past or focused on the future which is a shame because all the magic lives in the present. Seeing as we all could use a little more magic in our lives, here are 3 tools to get you to the present moment faster. Try using some (or all) of them this week and see what happens!
Gratitude. Look around you right now. What are you grateful for? Using our gratitude muscles is a great way to get into the present moment. Just don’t think it though. Really feel your gratitude. That feeling is a one way ticket to the present moment.
Sensory. Feel the breeze on your skin. Really look at everything around you. Take the time to actually taste your food instead of scarfing it down. When we awaken our senses we can feel our way into the present moment.
Joy. When you’re enjoying yourself you’re automatically transported into the present moment. Just think of those times you’re with friends and you’re all laughing so hard your stomachs hurt. How present are you then? Very. Seek out things that bring you joy. Do more of them. Having your joy tank full is one of the best things you can do for your life. Your happiness only begets more happiness. You don’t take from others when you’re joyful, you give. Allow your joy quota to increase this week. Keep your tank full.
I just adore a good planner. I know we all have smart phones now and that everything can be programmed at the touch of a button but there is something about writing things down that gets my brain working in a different way and allows me to set up the structure for my week/day/year. Life can get overwhelming at times and to see everything in front of me with a flip of a few pages and my favorite pen in hand makes me happy. I love these planners from Etsy shop Ninj & Ninj so much so that I've ordered them for the last three years and plan to continue for a long time! They also make great stocking stuffers so go ahead and order a few. Your life should be beautiful so write it down in something that is too.:)
2016 is looking good.
Stay Fancy xo
I’ve been realizing lately that I’ve been finding a lot to complain about. It hit me when I was in a terrible mood and all of a sudden I heard myself speaking. No wonder I’d been in a bad mood. I was constantly finding reasons to be in one! Now, though justified (aren’t we all?!), these things I was complaining about weren’t getting solved by me complaining, instead they were taking up the mental space that could otherwise be used for joyful thoughts. I was shocked when I realized what was happening. I’m generally a happy, cheerful person and this definitely was NOT fitting the vision of my life.
I woke up the next morning and the first thing that came to mind was gratitude. That was it! That was the key! I knew I had to start small in the morning and build up throughout the day so I began on my morning walk to grab coffee. Instead of letting my mind wander I instead looked around at what was around me and felt gratitude for it. Instead of walking a city block, I walked through a beautiful park on the way to my destination, just taking in everything around me and feeling very grateful to be there. Then it hit me. Gratitude is the opposite of complaining. And all either of them are in terms of ability is habit. So what if every time I went to complain I instead found something to be grateful for? Hmm. This seems like a way more fun way to go about my day! So here is my practice for the next few months (21 days to form a new habit but let’s really enforce it!) I’d love it if you’d join me!
When something comes up to complain about - I'll ask myself, “Is this something that is worth the mental toll it will take on me?” 9 times out of 10 it won’t be. Sure, there are times when it is necessary (note: I didn’t say justified) but I'll ask that question first.
Wait. Sometimes if we just wait a few hours we wonder why that seemed so important to talk about in the first place. Sure it may still bother you but chances are it will have calmed down a bit. If not, journal about it. And if still not, go ahead and find a trusted confidant who gets you just need to let this one out!
- Replace complaining with gratitude. Listen, no one is perfect and it's inevitable that we'll catch ourselves complaining at some point (or gossiping...eeks!). When you notice it, don't beat yourself up about it. Actually be proud that you noticed it because that means you're becoming more aware of your habits. Then in that moment find something to be grateful for, this way the new habit is replacing the old and next time the thought will go to gratitude faster! It's just building a muscle!
We all complain to feel justified but our real power comes when we realize it’s only doing us a disservice. And the funny this is the faster we move out of complaining and into gratitude the more wonderful things will come our way and the less there will be to complain about. Sounds like a better deal, don’t you think?
So since this is the week of Thanks, why not utilize this as a time to start flexing our gratitude muscles for the long haul and maybe by 2016 we can be a bit brighter, happier and more gracious human beings!
Happy Thanksgiving!! xo
Because you know better than that.
Stress is something we all know a little too well. It can set itself off even with the smallest of instigators sometimes sending us into needless tailspins in which once we come out the other side, we wonder what we were so worried about in the first place. Since a life without stress, though thoroughly desirable, isn’t quite an option, learning how to manage it when it comes up can be quite helpful. That’s why I want to share with you today 3 things that have really helped me when stress creeps in without me knowing it.
- Identify it. Your really freaking out and you don’t know why, you’re a little extra snappy or perhaps you can’t stop looking in your fridge (there must be more food in there somewhere!). Identify that you’re stressed. Just saying it and giving it a little acknowledgement will help take the edge off. Feelings want to know that they’ve been heard so though you don’t have to engage with irrational feeling you do want to acknowledge it’s presence so you can go ahead and move on. Notice it as you would a small puppy doing something totally goofy and irrational. You can even laugh at it if you want. Be objective. Be the observer not the merger.
- Drop down to you heart. This one is good. This is the thing that whenever I do it I can always feel an immediate shift. If you’re stressed, you’re living from your head and sh*t can get a little bonkers up there as we all know. Your heart is one of the wisest places you can visit. There are even studies out there now proving that our hearts have brain cells in them. Pretty cool, right? A simple way to drop down to you heart and out of your brain is to just place a hand over it while taking a few deep breaths. Pretend you’re actually breathing with your heart. You don’t have to have actual proof just use your imagination. Feel into it. It can help to think of something relaxing or of something you love unconditionally (like your dog:)).
- Stay calm. Sounds easier said than done, I know but just try saying the word “calm” to yourself. Remind yourself that all the best and enlightened decisions come from calm. Keep saying it. Calm. Calm. Calm. Every time you say it try to drop deeper and deeper into your body. From this place take action slowly. Don’t rush into every mundane thing you do. Instead do every thing with intention. The more time in between thoughts the better. This further helps you drop down into your heart and your body and get out of your head.
Give these a go next time stress tried to take a hold of your day. I pretty confident they’ll help to eliminate at least a little (if not all) of it.
What do you do to manage stress? Have you ever tried any of the above?
Oh, don’t you just love it when your brain starts to attack you? (that’s sarcasm) You know what I’m talking about.
That nagging voice that tells you you aren’t enough, why are you wasting your time, who are you to do anything or everyone’s favorite - I am unlovable.
We humans love to think that we’re broken. We love it so much that even the idea of putting ourselves back together again seems like it’s a waste of time.
Who am I if I’m not my story?
Though we’d never admit it - sometimes doesn’t it feel good (and by good I mean awful yet comfortable) to just wallow in these stories we’ve decided about ourselves?
Without our story how would we feel justified for our actions?
If we can’t blame things on our story after all, how are we able to slack off or give less than 100% to life?
Hmm, but what if we started telling a different story? Then what would happen? Would life get better? Oh, you bet your ass it would.
But here’s what people who tell you to tell a different story generally forget to mention. IT”S UNCOMFORTABLE. At first that is.
You are radically shifting your world view to a different frequency and one that feels good. Now, sure you hear this idea of feeling better and you say “Sign me up!” and that is great! Get your name on that page and on your way but don’t expect it all at once.
There will be growing pains, you will inevitably fall back into old patterns but THIS TIME you’ll be more aware of them. And THIS TIME instead of going with the old mundane “un-flow” you’ll be able to course correct and get back into YOUR FLOW. So what I’m saying is STOP TELLING THE STORY YOU NO LONGER WANT TO LIVE.
And start telling a new & improved one.
But also realize that it’s not an overnight process and that patience and self-care is needed on this journey.
And one day you'll wake up and realize your new story is far more the reality of your life than the old.
And that my friends, makes it all worth it.
I grew up in a very stressful household, we can save the details for another time, but the important part of this story is that it left me at an early age with crippling anxiety. We’re talking “if I turn the doorknob so many times some one will die” anxiety. Sounds crazy but many wonderful (not crazy) children (and adults) live their lives like this day to day.
It changed in many ways as I got older. It was always some new image or memory (though some were the same) I was afraid of and the stakes often changed. Generally they were tied to my success because very early on that’s what mattered most to me (that was my ticket out, after all) As anyone who knows what this type of anxiety is like (medically it’s called OCD and no, wanting your desk to be “just so” doesn’t necessarily mean you have it) knows the world can oftentimes become a scary and confusing place. It is this “madness” that allows you to go even deeper though. (yes, you’re kind of like a unicorn)
The first steps I took in handling my OCD was in seeing a therapist who measured my brainwaves by hooking me up to a machine and he noticed that my brain waves were very different to how brains were supposed to function. (note: this is a matter of patterning. You can create new neuropathways with the help of a trusted and credited hypnotherapist - and yes, that shit works) After a few sessions I went on with my life with a better understanding of how my brain works but not much changed ensued. By leaving my childhood home I was released of much of my anxiety (as in far fewer panic attacks) but it was still present in everything I did.
When I was 19 I discovered an intuitive healer by the name of Jennifer Matthews (organicwisdom.com) This is when my real healing began (though what prompted this was a reading of Abraham Hicks Ask and It Is Given- I had been asking for a career but what I needed in that moment was a life changer.) In my work with Jennifer I learned how to separate myself from my anxiety. How to observe it instead of becoming attached to it. Part of that is doing the thing that causes you anxiety (turning the doorknob only once!) and then not giving in. The time afterward was immensely uncomfortable. What if by not turning the knob I ruined my big shot (or date, or relationship, or even just having a good day)? I could obsess for nearly a whole day just thinking about that door knob (or whatever the object or situation). But after some practice, soon it was only hours, then minutes and then down to seconds. I’d get on a role for a while and then sometimes I’d fall back into old patterning.
Once I started doing hypnotherapy, with a fantastic woman named Heather Hayward, and relieving myself of all the trauma in my life-that’s when things began to get a lot easier. Those haunting images I mentioned - I went into each of them and let them know they had no power over me (do this with a trusted hypnotherapist, not on your own). When I get to live my life without second guessing, without all this fear anxiety brings, then I get to be in the flow. All those dramatic things that spring up in my head don’t happen - instead I drop down to my heart and I start living life from there. It takes a lot of practice and even now some days I’m better at it than others but I’m just so grateful I did the work to get here and that I know that I am in charge - not my anxiety.
If this is something you experience, don’t be ashamed to get help. You’re not alone. You’re not “crazy”. But you are missing out on how wonderful life really can be. So make a phone call, read a book, start finding your way into your Light. Because you are worth it.
A place to begin: https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/